My Cross-Dressing Husband Became a Woman, and We Stayed Together
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By Leslie Fabian for Glamour Magazine; republished by Yahoo
Would you stay with your significant other if they were a cross-dresser? (Photos: Courtesy of the subject.)
When
I met my second husband in 1987, he was wearing a dress. He’d come to
present to my women’s study group about being a cross-dresser. Among the
four presenters was a postoperative transsexual, another cross-dressing
man, and an androgynous individual, presenting partially as female,
partially male.
I
found myself wildly attracted to the man in the purple dress. This was
“Deborah"—known to the rest of the world as "David"—an orthopedic
surgeon. Two years before, at 36, he’d finally begun addressing the pain
and self-loathing he felt from a profound inner conflict: For most of
his life, he’d wished he could be "one of the girls.”
It
was not Deborah’s physical appearance to which I was drawn but the
courage and honesty I witnessed that day. I was enrolled in
personal-growth workshops and studying to become a psychotherapist, so
yes, perhaps I was more open-minded than the average person. But more
than that, I was attracted to someone finally being true to herself,
sharing her deepest truth with a group of strangers. We parted with a
hug, and I somehow knew we’d meet again.
It
turned out that we had both signed up for an ongoing workshop called
“The Living Soul” beginning the following month. I arrived and
recognized David immediately, thinking how appealing he was as a man!
During this intensive training workshop, David and I learned to know and
understand ourselves more deeply, and we became closer through the
process. The course encouraged digging within to acknowledge and
appreciate our own inner workings, and our true natures were fully
exposed to each other.
Outside
of this situation, David was less open. At the time, he was married
with four young children, and though this marriage wasn’t working, he
was not ready to end it. So we resisted acting on the smoldering
physical attraction that developed between us. In 1988, realizing his
marriage could not be saved, David ended it. We married in 1991, and
we’ve been together ever since.
Because
David’s secret life had been revealed at our first meeting, it was no
big deal seeing him in drag. We’d go out with him dressed as Deborah for
dinners with certain friends or an occasional weekend away. To me, my
husband was “just a cross-dresser.”
But,
as with any relationship, it wasn’t all easy. Our primary challenge
(stepchildren and ex-spouses notwithstanding) was our sex life;
specifically, the devastation David experienced whenever Deborah’s time
was over. I was delighted by the return of my man; his male persona was
extremely masculine—and I liked that. But David didn’t feel that way.
As
an open-minded (sick puppy!), adventurous woman, I was comfortable with whatever
fantasies arose. But sometimes I wanted something more traditional than a
man in a nightgown coming to bed with me. I would ask if David could
just be David once in a while. This created conflict and invariably sent
him into a downward spiral. Usually, within days, David would find a
way to come on to me and we’d make love the way I wanted to. Then all
would be well…until the cycle repeated itself.
Perhaps both of us were in denial about the magnitude of his need to be seen as a woman.
The
breaking point came in fall 2009, when David was again considering a
new therapist, a different antidepressant, some experimental method for
accepting the grief of living a lie. As usual, he bemoaned this process,
but something unusual happened; I shocked us both by saying, “It’s time
to do something different.”
I
suggested we talk to an endocrinologist. It was the first step toward
resolving his now-60-year-long struggle and the beginning of a quest to
honor the woman within. I’d realized that my beloved would never be
happy as a man, though I also knew that I could not commit to remaining
in our marriage until I’d experienced our new, changed life. I made this
abundantly clear to him, not threatening or coercing but simply sharing
it honestly, because it was my truth.
The
next two years were a roller coaster ride for me. David told me many
times, “I’ll stop this immediately if it means losing you.” While I was
touched by his willingness to forgo this dream, I knew that remaining
married to an unhappy, inauthentic man was impossible. He had to move
forward with his transition, but I still didn’t know if I’d be able to
stay married to him once he did. We lived in this ambiguous state for
more than two years until I realized that we belong together, regardless
of anything.
Ever
since Deborah formally came into the world in October 2011, she has
been relentlessly happy. I’ve accepted this new life of ours, even if it
may not be my dream come true—it’s certainly hers. It’s the life she
thought would elude her forever, and I was able to support her as she
made it a reality. For that reason, our marriage is one of my life’s
greatest achievements.
Leslie Hilburn Fabian is a clinical social worker and the author of My Husband’s a Woman Now: A Shared Journey of Transition and Love. She and Deborah share their home with Gracie, a pooch of questionable lineage.
By Leslie Fabian for Glamour Magazine; republished by Yahoo
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